My Love, Hate Relationship with…Gift wrapping (yeah, it was worthy of a post)

On this Christmas Eve 2015, I want to give you the top reasons I dislike gift wrapping. I mean I dislike it tremendously much -that’s the extent of my dislike!  I’ll just jump right into this thing…

#1. The paper never cooperates.

I think my gift wrapping paper secretly plots against me every year.  It crumples; it tears (in the wrong places); it just won’t fold right!

#2. Though not as exciting, a bag is easier. (Pretty self-explanatory)

#3. It never fails that I have to either hide in my closet to wrap gifts or wake up super early -before the little one can see anything.  Hey, we have an elf and Santa Claus running around this place, so she thinks.  Hence, I keep the magic going.

#4. Time, time, time. Gift wrapping is time consuming.

And #5…All that paper gets thrown away!  I know we could gently unwrap the gifts, but really?  The kids wouldn’t have any fun, which brings me to potato-stamp-insituthe “love” part of this gift wrapping thing.

I LOVE seeing the excitement and thrill the kids have when seeing their unknown goodies under the tree.

On this Christmas Eve, as you wrap that gift, it’s okay for you to hate doing this daunting task.  However, have more doses of your kids excitement than doses of the dislike of gift wrapping.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is all wrapped up…MERRY CHRISTMAS!

 

Tuesday Exchange (spotlight on…)

 

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Don’t mind the mess…RestyledMom is getting crafty. #ornamentwreath

On Tuesdays, I like to do what I call a #TuesdayExchange, where I share something I’ve read of other bloggers.  Today’s #TuesdayExchange is a bit late since Christmas is 3 days away and all décor should probably be up by now.  This is where I tell you my secret. I am like the scrooge of Christmas decorating. I get real ‘humbuggish’ when it comes to decorating –even as a child, I wasn’t too crazy about taking all that stuff out, putting it up, then taking it all down weeks later. So, at this point, better late than never; plus, I do it for my kiddo.  No need in passing this scrooge of décor on to her.WP_20151125_001 (2)

I decided to try out the Christmas wreath made of ornaments. While I liked lovepeaceandtinyfeet.com’s utilization of a wire hanger, I own no wire hangers.  This may be the direct result of watching that movie “Mommy Dearest” where the mom says, “no wire hangers”.  I doubt it, but sometimes, I like to self-diagnose –no matter how far-fetched the diagnoses may be.  Nevertheless, in place of the wire hanger, I used a Styrofoam wreath from Hobby Lobby.  I promise every time I go in this store, I feel like I need to purchase something.  Hence, I have this built into my latest budget.  I’m not real crafty, but I am trying to get there.  That may end up being a later post –showcasing some of my “I saw it on Pinterest but when I did it, it ended up looking like this…” type of post.Sight_2015_12_17_182819_135

WP_20151219_008I digress. Long story short, I did the wreath and added some letters (cut out from a brown box), painted and glittered by my kiddo.  We now have “JOY” over the mantle, and I’m beginning to re-think this decorating thing –as long as it doesn’t require me to paint and glitter crap treasures 😉  Check out lovepeaceandtinyfeet.com for her Christmas wreath, as well as her latest post regarding “Sprinkles are for Winners”.  Interesting read, in which I agree, but that’s another #TuesdayExchange.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is spreading #Joy

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The #Joy of being a #restyledmom

New Year, New You…One Word (that will change your life)

Last year, my mom introduced me to the YouVersion app and some of the reading/devotional plans offered. The one reading plan that stood out the most was a 4 day reading plan entitled One Word That Will Change Your LifeIf ALL of me, which is composed of being a single mom, dateless in Dallas, living on a self-imposed budget, can have her entire essence of existence changed with one word, then honey this was what I needed!

The goal of this particular devotional is to have one word, for the entire year, that you live out.  This one word is to allow one to focus on God’s intent for his/her life through that one word.  As I worked through the 4 day devotional, I prayed, asking God what my word should be.  For the 2015 year, my word was Finish.

So often, I found myself feeling cluttered, anxious, overwhelmed and down right exhausted.  I felt as though I was getting nowhere in my life, agonizing over where I thought my life should be versus where it actually was.  After reading this devotional, I realized there were so many things I would start but leave unfinished; hence, I had no closure  (i.e. DIY projects, thorough closet cleaning, to do lists that never really got done).  I don’t know about you, but for me, when I have so many open action items, I get a little antsy.  I begin to feel as if everything is falling out of whack and needs to be placed back into some semblance of order -quickly

Some of these things may sound simple to you.  However, it can range from incomplete projects right down to complex relationships needing some type of resolve -even if that resolve is to end the relationship all together.  I’ve already begun praying about my one word for the 2016 year.  I’m thinking discipline, but the big guy (Jesus) and I are still in chats.

As we enter this New Year, I strongly recommend taking the time to commit to this year long journey.  I must admit, although I did not finish everything, I did finish most things and have had resolve in other areas of my life.  I feel less anxious and more connected to God and the destiny he has for me.  What do you think your One Word should or will be?  Share in the comments below or Tweet your One Word here.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is looking forward to the Journey of #OneWord

New Year, New You...in One Word

Photo: getoneword.com

 

Tis the Season…to Not Go Broke! A Mind Blowing Budget (part 2)

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Around this time last year, my church announced offering Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University (FPU) classes, and I knew this was God’s confirmation.  It was time to put action with the plan to begin my debt freedom journey.  FPU was by far one of the greatest investments into myself.  Yes.  There will be times when you should invest wisely into Y-O-U!

Somewhere between your next cyber purchase or in-store layaway deposit, in the back of your head, you’re thinking of the mounting bills.  Tell me, “Where’s the Comfort and Joy in that thought?” Do understand, it’s okay to buy gifts, but take the time to also think about their significance and how much is enough.  Do you really need to get one more toy, TV, or ___________________(insert any item here)?

Since I want you to #WIN as we move into 2016, I’ve provided you an idea of a budget.  Of course, you’ll want to doctor it up, but I want you to  Start winning NOW!  Let me know in the comments what you think.

Though this is a “sample” budget and the figures are not factual, I want to express to you a few things:

  1. February 2016 will mark my 1 year anniversary of NOT having a cable subscription.  I asked myself, “Self? Do you really need that monthly cable subscription?” Clearly, you see how “Self” answered.
  2. It takes time to get your budget down. You’ll find the need to adjust and then readjust some more. Some months you get it right; some months not so much. However, Don’t Get Discouraged! Keep going.
  3. Don’t deprive yourself, but Do work on becoming disciplined. For me, BLOW money is a combo of last minute ‘mommy I forgots’ (i.e. I need money for…), as well as those moments when I deserve something pretty (just don’t go overboard).
Payment Amount Category/Debt Remaining Balance
$1,400 (bi-weekly)
$120 Tithes (Always my first) $1280
100 Grocery (I write out a 2 week menu that includes leftovers) 1180
50 Gas (I try not to joy ride) 1130
400 Mortgage/Rent 730
100 Electric* (I’m like that dad on  the TV show “Everybody Hates Chris”.  I can feel the kilowatts going up when lights are left on in empty rooms! 630
50 Water* 580
65 Day/ After school care 515
150 Auto 365
50 Cell phone* 315
50 Internet* 265
50 Life insurance* (have additional life insurance outside your job) 215
8 Monthly subscription* (i.e. Hulu, Netflix) 207
50 Savings 1 157
60 Extracurricular activity* 97
50 Clothing* 47
40 Blow (for those wonderful last minute “mommy I need” moments”) 7

*Monthly payments not broken down into bi-weekly payments

Restyled Moms, Don’t let your 2015 debts become your 2016 regrets.  Give your plans to God and watch him shape them for your BEST.  Here’s to your Prosperous 2016

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is living on a #budget and looking forward to a #debtfree future

 

Tis the Season…To Not Go Broke! A Mind Blowing Budget (part 1)

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As we cruise into Christmas (15 days from today’s date), have you stopped to check your bank account or that credit card balance?  How many times have you looked at the ending balance of your bank account and wondered “where did all of the money go?”, or thought “there just isn’t enough to take care of the things needed, let alone try to get the things wanted’?

I’ve been there, on both ends of the spectrum.  I’ve looked at my bills and my bank account, and thought to myself “my account must have been hacked” –knowing all the while I was the hacker.   I have sat many nights allowing my story to be one of a broke and broken single mom.  I fed into my spirit that only one income would never get me to where I wanted to be; and I would forever have to ‘rob Peter to pay Paul’.  I was praying, but I was not truly giving it to God; I was just talking to Him –going through the motions, but not exercising my faith.

This holiday season, I want the first part of your ‘Budget Build’ to start with feeding your soul positive input.  Sometimes, the preparation for the journey simply begins with mentally preparing for this budgeting lifestyle or possibly repairing how you once looked at things.  For myself, I now speak and plan in faith.  I have a vision for my future and I pray it is aligned with the vision God has for me.

In Part 2, I’ll share with you a sample budget with a break down of a few categories.  Hint, cable is no longer included.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is no longer living to pay debts but now living with plans to prosper.

 

 

The Day I Realized I’m An Awesome Mom – the crunchy mommy

Race for the Cure and time with my daughter

The kid and I (#RestyledMom) @ Race for the Cure

Being a mom is hard and something that we don’t always feel like we’re doing so well. Here’s an “a-Ha” moment where I realized that I AM good enough!

Source: The Day I Realized I’m An Awesome Mom – the crunchy mommy

The One Must Do When Things Fall Apart

Of course, as I typed my post “Broke, Busted and Disgusted”, the universe saw me typing every word pertaining to any form of debt freedom.  From here, the tests began -and the tests are happening as we near Christmas!

While taking my daughter to the dentist,  I recalled needing to pay the co-pay.  “Okay universe, I got this”, I thought to myself, “my budget is still in tact.”  Since making my monthly budget, I suddenly have extra money.  HA universe! I will share my budget in a separate post (be on the look out for it).

Back to the universe and what it was trying to do.  The universe said, “That’s not how I am going to take you out; that’s too easy.  A mere co-pay”… Bahahaha  (insert evil villain laugh).

Of freakin’ course!  The kid has 2 cavities, which cost at least $200 to fill.    Right now, I feel like a crappy mom who could have done better flossing the kid’s teeth.  Though the dentist reassured me it was not my fault, I still feel like crud.  This is where the universe began its reign of terror.  It started with the dentist and moved to the garbage disposal, which suddenly no longer worked.  Okay, this isn’t huge.  I don’t necessarily need a garbage disposal.  Mommy now takes a breath and moves the garbage disposal down on the laundry list of many ‘things to do’ around the home.  One.  Two.  Three…someone said counting helps with getting into a calm and relaxed state.  Twenty-one.  Twenty-two.  Great gracious!  How far into this count do I need to go?!  By now, I have travelled into several states; calmed nor relaxed have been stopping points.

I heard a song which said if you say His name…”Jesus”…then the atmosphere must change.  Okay.  Here we go….”Jesus!”.  No gusts of wind over me.  No lights flickering. No burning bushes.

But wait.  I blink my eyes and…ahhh.  Okay.  I get it.  Just like that.  I get it.  Faith the size of a mustard seed. Mustard seed Faith 1

Restyled Moms I just want you to know; as a matter of fact, I need you to know…there will be times when things fall apart. Please stay encouraged and know that its things that fall apart.  You are far more important than things.

Scream, if you must.  Count, if that works for you.  Most importantly and above all, pray and have faith.  It may not be any sudden and drastic change; but I assure you, God is working on your behalf.  Keep the Faith Restyled Mom; Keep the Faith.  Things will fall apart BUT GOD PUTS THEM BACK TOGETHER.  In His own time.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is sharing her mustard seeds and wants you to lean more into your faith

Bonus: Check out “Conscious Trust” to start leaning more into your faith 😉

Benefits of Sweet Almond Oil

I love using this oil also as part of my facial cleansing routine. It makes both my skin and my hair extra soft (hair doesn’t feel weighed down)

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Sweet almond oil is a very light, thin oil extracted from pressed almonds. Rich in vitamins A, B1, B6 and E, it’s packed with antioxidants, potassium, magnesium and omega-6 fatty acids, which helps to strengthen the hair, moisturize the scalp and promote hair growth. It’s also a good source of iron, which is necessary for strong, healthy hair.

Sweet almond oil is a moisture rich oil that penetrates well into the hair shaft and follicles. This amazing oil eases itching, soreness, dryness, and rashes. It’s good to note that it can do all of this even thought it doesn’t penetrate as deeply as other oils. Like most hair treatments, sweet almond oil, doesn’t create new growth. It does, however moisturize the hair making it less prone to breakage.

Nourishing the hair and smoothing cuticles, sweet almond oil is rich in beneficial protein. Frequent application of proteins to the hair can…

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Season’s Spending… The Top 5 Ways How to NOT Blow Your Budget on Christmas Shopping

For those of you who have hit the #BlackFriday sales before reading this post, my apologies but save those receipts!

For those of you who are contemplating this coming Cyber Monday,  while trying to figure out what to get for whom and how much money you don’t have for any of the latest and greatest, this post is for you!

Here’s a quick list on How to Not Blow Your Budget on Christmas Shopping (given you have a budget) –which actually is first on the list.

#1. Have a Budget.  Get a set number you are planning to spend.  The goal is to spend cash only; and once the cash is gone, the shopping is done.  Make sure this is a realistic number where you do not have to dip into your savings, a college fund, or even your emergency fund.  That’s right, Christmas gift shopping is NOT an emergency!

Setting a budget can help you avoid overspending (and dealing with debt for months to come)….”

#2. Make a list and Check it twice!  (Hey it’s Christmas, I had to get at least one song in here).  However, it’s true.  Make a list of all those for whom you want to purchase gifts.  Now check that list again and ask yourself, “Is this a genuine gift I am giving or am I simply trying to impress this person?”  No one is impressed when you’re broke!  (Do me a favor and Tweet this because someone is thinking about skipping a Debt Freedom payment).

#3. Ask yourself, “Can I make a gift?”  I have received thoughtful handmade gifts.  Take for example my prayer box.  It was handmade with a few slips of nice stationary paper inside for me to write my prayers and/or intentions.  Check out my Instagram page to see the prayer box  my good friend made for me.  Have you stopped by Pinterest lately?  Check out and follow some of my boards to get some great gift ideas. Continue reading