Level Up Friends

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of speaking with a friend who shared how God spoke to her. In her obedience to the Master, she was able to quit her job and become self-employed.  I am sure these types of testimonials are not rare; however, seldom do these things happen within my inner circle.

But wait….there’s more.

She went on to tell me how God’s abundance started flowing in once she quit her full time, well paying job.  This friend spoke of how she told God all about her student loan debt, debts in general, Financial Peace University and how this left her feeling uncertain about the decision to quit her job. Why am I bringing this uncertainty portion to your attention? It’s because you need to know that God loves when you detox and tell Him everything (I mean ereThang)…that’s like the super duper extent of everything! When she told God of her fear yet remained in him (John 15:5), He blessed her by having her student loan debt forgiven PLUS speaking engagement offers rolling in.  ALL IN THE SAME DAY!!!

So how does this relate to “Level Up Friends”?  Well I am glad you asked.

While I do believe in having friends from all walks of life, I strongly believe in having friends who build you up spiritually.  My friend did not know it at the time, but I was having a minor faith walk battle myself, and to hear her testimony reminded me of just how awesome GOD IS!  Not just his awesomeness but also how much he wants to bless our obedience and dependency in Him alone.

Level UP  friends will encourage you (sometimes unknowingly); will lovingly yet sternly call you out on your stuff; will have your back but won’t condone foolishness; will be your iron to sharpen you back up (Proverbs 27:17); will pray for and with you; will push you to never settle on complacency; will remind you to stop being a distraction to yourself; will always remind you there is NOTHING GOD CANNOT DO and keep praying for His will to be done and not your own.

Who ya with?! I encourage a lot of you to re-evaluate some of your friendships and determine whether these relationships are God ordained or sly distractions deterring you from the person who God truly desires for you to be.

I hope this message spoke to someone and you share it with your Level Up crew.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…whose #squadgoals have been met.  To God be the glory!

P.S. Guess who’s back 😉  More blog posts coming…

Trying to Come Back…

I’ve been missing in action for a few months now.  Being a full time working, single mom is a tough gig.  I prayed and specifically asked God for increase in my job and guess what?!  He increased me in my job!  Go figure.  However, I am not complaining, not one bit.

Now, I am returning to Restyled Mom with the hopes that I can find my balance.

As a matter of fact, I’ve been reading a great book – “Fervent” by Priscilla Shirer.  So here on this page, I share my specific prayer that God will allow me to graciously return to Restyled Mom with the Holy Spirit leading the charge.

Today, Restyled Mom community I pray the Holy Spirit to lead, guide, and intervene.  Today, I pray a prayer of right now.  Right now God will take the charge and open windows of blessings to your soul as you open yourself to Him and his leading.

Get specific in your prayers and while you are making your comeback, from wherever you are in this moment, know that you’re not alone.  I’m making mine too!

Sincerely,

A Restyled Mom…who is getting real specific and coming back.

Spectacular Adult Life Lessons My Kid Taught Me

life lessons, kids teach lessonsSince a few posts back covered raising amazing kids as well as capturing ideas and inspiration, I figured it would only be right to share some of the inspiration and lessons I have received from my kiddo.  So let’s jump right in…

Get excited, even if it’s just for the little things.

  • I reward performance, and my daughter did very well in school. She had been struggling with being a Chatty Cathy during class, and she finally mastered her mouth! Lol.  While in Wally World (WalMart) grocery shopping, she asked for silly putty.  This was by far the BEST one dollar spent on my kid.  To see her play for hours with this simple treat made me realize Lesson #1: Smile and be excited for the small wins in this single parenting life or just life itself!  Don’t wait for the big grandiose things.  Get excited NOW! Walk with confidence knowing God has already equipped you for this very moment.  “For we walk by faith and not by sight.” II Corinthians 5:7

Have a giving spirit.

  • While in the airport, my daughter saw 2 very energetic little girls with their parents -who looked exhausted.  The children seemed to have no toys or coloring books, and were having what appeared to be minor meltdowns.  My kiddo asked if she could ask their parents if the kids could color with her.  It’s as if she knew these parents needed relief (why she doesn’t seem to sense this with me…I don’t know).  I digress…lol.  The parents looked so grateful for a moment to breathe, which brings me to Lesson #2: Giving doesn’t have to be extravagant; it just has to be genuinely from the heart. ” Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion.  For God loves a cheerful giver.” II Corinthians 9:7

Laugh, Laugh, Laugh and Laugh some more!

  • To hear my daughter’s innocent and sweet laughter brings a calming, yet excitement to my soul.  How God has blessed me with a kid with such spunk and personality…it just amazes me!  Sometimes, we as parents, get so caught up in the latest hype; the single and lonely saga; or the my kid should have the latest and greatest.  We can easily miss Lesson #3: Learn to laugh things off and make the most out of your lemons (lemonade, lemon pie, lemon squares, lemon fudge, etc.) “He will yet fill your mouths with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.” Job 8:21

Bonus: Just Dance!

  • There is a time for everything.  Might I suggest Just Dance for the Wii? Lol.  Seriously Restyled Moms, we’ve got to be healthy.  It isn’t limited to what you eat, but it’s also about being physically fit.  We’ve got kids to keep up with! “Praise his name with dancing…” Psalm 149:3

What are some of the lessons you’ve learned from your little ones -no matter the age?

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is open to Re-Learning a few things 🙂

 

The Bitter Bag…

The New Year is upon us and I just want to know one thing, “What are you packing in your New Year’s bag?”

Throughout social media, I see people posting “New Year, New Me”; yet, they bring so much of last year’s negativity into the New Year.  Mind you, I do believe sometimes one must look at the old so as to see how to get to the new.  However, when allowing the old to linger, it poses a threat to the mantra “New Year, New Me”.  What about you can be new when you keep holding on to the old?

Bitter Bag Packing consists of the baggage such as toxic relationships (be it intimate or otherwise); lack of balance between planning and doing; and/or holding on to negativity (either towards self, others or both). There could be a myriad of things stored in your New Year’s bag that you do not necessarily desire to take into this New Year.  Unfortunately,we  sometimes have subconsciously compartmentalized and packed it away –instead of dumping the baggage all together.  (Disclaimer: I am no certified therapist, but I know a thing or two about being weighed down by unnecessary BAGGAGE!)  I suggest making a list of the Good vs. Not So Good things you have in your current 2015 bag.  Look at the list with strong intent to leave some things behind (preferably those things that are negative and/or out of your control), positively build on other things, and potentially add new and better things.

As we head into the New Year, I challenge

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you to pack light and comfortably because you then can open yourself up to so much more. 

“And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. Otherwise, the wine will burst the skins, and both the wine and the wineskins will be ruined.  No, they pour new wine into new wineskins.” Mark 2:22

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is making room for God’s pouring into NEW wineskin.

 

New Year, New You…One Word (that will change your life)

Last year, my mom introduced me to the YouVersion app and some of the reading/devotional plans offered. The one reading plan that stood out the most was a 4 day reading plan entitled One Word That Will Change Your LifeIf ALL of me, which is composed of being a single mom, dateless in Dallas, living on a self-imposed budget, can have her entire essence of existence changed with one word, then honey this was what I needed!

The goal of this particular devotional is to have one word, for the entire year, that you live out.  This one word is to allow one to focus on God’s intent for his/her life through that one word.  As I worked through the 4 day devotional, I prayed, asking God what my word should be.  For the 2015 year, my word was Finish.

So often, I found myself feeling cluttered, anxious, overwhelmed and down right exhausted.  I felt as though I was getting nowhere in my life, agonizing over where I thought my life should be versus where it actually was.  After reading this devotional, I realized there were so many things I would start but leave unfinished; hence, I had no closure  (i.e. DIY projects, thorough closet cleaning, to do lists that never really got done).  I don’t know about you, but for me, when I have so many open action items, I get a little antsy.  I begin to feel as if everything is falling out of whack and needs to be placed back into some semblance of order -quickly

Some of these things may sound simple to you.  However, it can range from incomplete projects right down to complex relationships needing some type of resolve -even if that resolve is to end the relationship all together.  I’ve already begun praying about my one word for the 2016 year.  I’m thinking discipline, but the big guy (Jesus) and I are still in chats.

As we enter this New Year, I strongly recommend taking the time to commit to this year long journey.  I must admit, although I did not finish everything, I did finish most things and have had resolve in other areas of my life.  I feel less anxious and more connected to God and the destiny he has for me.  What do you think your One Word should or will be?  Share in the comments below or Tweet your One Word here.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is looking forward to the Journey of #OneWord

New Year, New You...in One Word

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The One Must Do When Things Fall Apart

Of course, as I typed my post “Broke, Busted and Disgusted”, the universe saw me typing every word pertaining to any form of debt freedom.  From here, the tests began -and the tests are happening as we near Christmas!

While taking my daughter to the dentist,  I recalled needing to pay the co-pay.  “Okay universe, I got this”, I thought to myself, “my budget is still in tact.”  Since making my monthly budget, I suddenly have extra money.  HA universe! I will share my budget in a separate post (be on the look out for it).

Back to the universe and what it was trying to do.  The universe said, “That’s not how I am going to take you out; that’s too easy.  A mere co-pay”… Bahahaha  (insert evil villain laugh).

Of freakin’ course!  The kid has 2 cavities, which cost at least $200 to fill.    Right now, I feel like a crappy mom who could have done better flossing the kid’s teeth.  Though the dentist reassured me it was not my fault, I still feel like crud.  This is where the universe began its reign of terror.  It started with the dentist and moved to the garbage disposal, which suddenly no longer worked.  Okay, this isn’t huge.  I don’t necessarily need a garbage disposal.  Mommy now takes a breath and moves the garbage disposal down on the laundry list of many ‘things to do’ around the home.  One.  Two.  Three…someone said counting helps with getting into a calm and relaxed state.  Twenty-one.  Twenty-two.  Great gracious!  How far into this count do I need to go?!  By now, I have travelled into several states; calmed nor relaxed have been stopping points.

I heard a song which said if you say His name…”Jesus”…then the atmosphere must change.  Okay.  Here we go….”Jesus!”.  No gusts of wind over me.  No lights flickering. No burning bushes.

But wait.  I blink my eyes and…ahhh.  Okay.  I get it.  Just like that.  I get it.  Faith the size of a mustard seed. Mustard seed Faith 1

Restyled Moms I just want you to know; as a matter of fact, I need you to know…there will be times when things fall apart. Please stay encouraged and know that its things that fall apart.  You are far more important than things.

Scream, if you must.  Count, if that works for you.  Most importantly and above all, pray and have faith.  It may not be any sudden and drastic change; but I assure you, God is working on your behalf.  Keep the Faith Restyled Mom; Keep the Faith.  Things will fall apart BUT GOD PUTS THEM BACK TOGETHER.  In His own time.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who is sharing her mustard seeds and wants you to lean more into your faith

Bonus: Check out “Conscious Trust” to start leaning more into your faith 😉

Conscious Trust

“Test will come when you are practicing conscious trust in and dependency on God.” ~Some wise person

One week. One week of conscious trust. When was the last time you walked in what you were saying? You know that old saying, ‘walk the walk and talk the talk’. Have you ever purposefully decided to become fully aware of every little moment and give each one of those individual moments to God?

I am talking about trusting God with your next power move right down to depending on Him to help you with something as minimal as doing your own hair. Yep folks, I even whispered to God, “Lord I trust you to help me do this hair and not look like a chia pet when I’m done.”

Of course my trust was put to the test. My air conditioner suddenly stop blowing cold air, in the middle of summer, and IN TEXAS! Have you ever been to Texas in August?! Here’s how God said let me show you how I will reward you for your trust and dependency on me. What I thought would be at least $1,000 to fix, turned out to be a little less than $300.  Awesome!  Well not so awesome if you are just broke and don’t have $300.  I get that; which being Broke, Busted and Disgusted is covered under the Finance section of Restyled Mom, and you should read it.

My week of conscious trust was dedicated to giving EVERYTHING to God. Here are some of my prayers and thoughts I conscientiously gave to God -some thoughts deeper than others.

  • Lord I trust you with seasoning this meal I am preparing. (Everything people.)
  • Lord I trust you with my family – though it’s just the two of us, I trust you have us where you want us, right now, at this very moment.
  • Lord I trust you with my career.
  • Lord I tTrust wordrust you with the patience to actually clean my closet.
  • Lord I give you my faith and trust that you will shape my heart to be the women you desire. I am depending on you to cultivate my faith and my heart  for your glory.

“Blessings on all who reverence and trust the Lord –on all who obey Him”  Psalm 128:11  (Share the encouragement and Tweet this)

No matter how great or small, make a conscious effort to fully trust God with it all.  Leave me a comment what you will consciously entrust to God.  I’d like to pray for you.

Sincerely,

Your Restyled Mom…who wants you to Trust

Fresh Out of Whine

While watching Scandal (one of my many TV faves), one of the characters (Cyrus Bean) told Mellie, “Your answer will define your future.”

Oh how this resonated within me and made me ask myself, “What have I been speaking into the universe to define my future?”  My friends and I often have discussions about our goals and aspirations –some farfetched and some quite attainable.  However, one thing we always stay attuned to is the scripture found in Proverbs 18:21.  “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will have to eat their own words” (God’s Word Translation).

The more I thought about it, the more I realized the words I was speaking were not words to build.  I was beginning to whine (a lot).  I would say things like ‘I only want to serve the Lord; nothing else matters”, followed by, “no lying, cheating man matters”…see where my heart really was?  It surely wasn’t on serving the Lord.  It was more focused on the hurt rather than the One who could heal that hurt.  Last year, I felt like I was all over the place –mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  I was in a one man battle, trying to understand such things like why am I in my thirties and not married; why does it seem as if I am near my break through BUT STILL NOT ACTUALLY BREAKING THROUGH; why when I try to pray, it seems so hard to do.  I mean praying is just a conversation with my closest friend.  Right?

As I am sharing a little of what my “whinery” was stocked with, I am also chuckling to myself while I write this post because here are the facts.  Continue reading