As I look back to the post “The Bitter Bag“, I began to think about my daughter and what drives me to dump the “angry black woman”. She is the driving force! All that I choose to be is who she sees. I don’t know about you, but my desire is for my child to be better and to live better than I. I want to set an example that she can proudly look to become, while enthusiastically seeking to do better than myself -some might say the imaginary bar.
Here are what I consider to be the Top 3 Ways to Raise an Amazing Kid:
- Be the example. I don’t have a PhD like my mother, but the example she has set for me epitomizes the strength of a woman, grace in stillness and humility in kindness. As of now, I have no desire to get my doctorate, but I do have a desire to love the Lord and be a woman of God. ” Thank you for giving me Jesus”, were the last words I heard my mom say to my grandmother. How profound; my mom too has given me Jesus. Ask yourself, “What type of legacy am I building and leaving behind for my kid(s)?” Though I am sure my mom would like for me to be Dr. Restyled Mom, I am grateful for the Christ like example she has set for me. For this I say, “Doc, thank you for giving me Jesus.”
- Speak it. Your words have power. Our children NEED to hear and KNOW they are intelligent, creative, intuitive, kind, beautiful, brave and any other positive adjectives. “There is beauty in spoken words that build and uplift. These words can be hope in a world appearing to be in a downward shift” -Restyled Mom
- Be firm but fair. Unfortunately, this world has its snarling teeth ready and waiting to tear our children apart. I think part of building a child is being firm in your words and actions but also being fair about it. Children need to know there are consequences for their actions. They also need to know that you have their best interest at heart, while still loving them to the moon and back.
Bonus: Be able to laugh at yourself, accept and admit your mistakes, and HAVE FUN! What kid wants to grow up saying my mom was an old sour faced woman, who didn’t know how to have fun! Or in the words of my little one “such a bossy pants” (lol).
(Disclaimer: If you don’t do these things, your kid may still be amazing; however, the potential of being a ‘buttmunch’ rises significantly. Studies have shown this…lol…really…ok, maybe not officially 😉
Your Restyled Mom…who has the pleasure of raising one #amazing kid!