While watching Scandal (one of my many TV faves), one of the characters (Cyrus Bean) told Mellie, “Your answer will define your future.”
Oh how this resonated within me and made me ask myself, “What have I been speaking into the universe to define my future?” My friends and I often have discussions about our goals and aspirations –some farfetched and some quite attainable. However, one thing we always stay attuned to is the scripture found in Proverbs 18:21. “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will have to eat their own words” (God’s Word Translation).
The more I thought about it, the more I realized the words I was speaking were not words to build. I was beginning to whine (a lot). I would say things like ‘I only want to serve the Lord; nothing else matters”, followed by, “no lying, cheating man matters”…see where my heart really was? It surely wasn’t on serving the Lord. It was more focused on the hurt rather than the One who could heal that hurt. Last year, I felt like I was all over the place –mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I was in a one man battle, trying to understand such things like why am I in my thirties and not married; why does it seem as if I am near my break through BUT STILL NOT ACTUALLY BREAKING THROUGH; why when I try to pray, it seems so hard to do. I mean praying is just a conversation with my closest friend. Right?
As I am sharing a little of what my “whinery” was stocked with, I am also chuckling to myself while I write this post because here are the facts.
- FACT 1: Yes, I want to serve the Lord. However, it’s only me who I am trying to convince that nothing else matters. Remember, the Lord knows your heart. And while he is a jealous God, he also knows you will have other interests. He just asks that you not place those interests before Him.
- FACT 2: Pour all day long into that career of yours. Rise to the top in whatever you are doing. BUT know this…once you have achieved all that you set out to achieve, you will still have the desire to share it with someone other than your pets, Instagram or your network of Facebook friends.
- FACT 3: You will need to vent. However, when your venting turns into a continuous unleashing of your wrath and/or resentment towards that person and/or thing, you are no longer venting. You are holding on to your glass of “whine” and not seeing the good that God may have delivered to you.
- FACT 4: Sometimes the “whine” we drinketh is a direct result of the smashed grapes the Holy Spirit directed us to not partake in(Tweet This Nugget of Truth). In English…God spoke, gave you a way out, and you chose YOUR WAY. Now you’re whining.
Given the facts, do you think it’s time for you to say, “I’m fresh out of Whine!”? Will you join me for a fresh glass of LIFE? Be on the lookout for your invitation. It usually shows up right when you order the whine.
your Restyled Mom…who is no longer drinking the whine